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I used to have the ONE I luRve the most after my family, which i had to let him go just becozz of my confusion, hilang arah, blurr, (it was same like budak kecik berhingus yang tak tahu apa yang betul dan apa yang salah)......and on that time i really2 needed help, guidance, pedoman, panduan, and tunjuk ajar....i was like someone who was drowning in the middle of sea, seeking for help, but no one hears me.......except Allah..the One I luRve the most, tempat mengadu nasib, menceritakan segala masalah, Hanya Allah maha mendengar, maha pengasih dan maha penyayang....

Now I believe luRve lies at the root of everything. We can therefore realize what we need most to help we gain the inner strength necessary for offering sacrifices. It is our luRve for Allah. How much do we luRve him? Do we luRve Him more than everything else?

Islam asks us to luRve God more than all else..That is why it confronts every Muslim with one simple but profound question: Whom do you love more? Allah, His Messenger and Jihad in His way, or fathers, sons, wives, brothers, wealth, houses, commerce, careers?

Only with such luRve for Allah will sacrifice turn into an inner urge,rather than remaining a compliance with an external exhortation. Then we will derive the true delight and pleasure in fulfilling the demands of iman.

As we all know, there are two types of iman. One remains on our lips and that is the iman which becomes a burden to us. There is another iman which penetrates into the heart that is the iman which becomes a pleasure, a delight, a joy. Once we have this iman, if we are required to give time, money, life or sacrifice,likes and dislikes, opinions, we do it gladly.

How to attain luRve for Allah which exceeds every other love? this kind of question was always running thru my head when i was a heartbroken........
There are not, and cannot be, any precise formula for this purpose. But a few things will help. And each in turn will become a rich inner resource you will need to fulfill the demands of sacrificing.

Remember how He has created me, provided me with everything i need; how infinitely Merciful He is.
Looking at my existence, looking at the universe around me, and everywhere i will see His mercy and care, His wisdom and majesty. As i reflect and ponder over 'His signs', which are everywhere, my luRve for Him will increase.

Remembering Him as often as i can is essential and fundamental. It will help me not only to attain love, but all other resources i need to develop my spirit and capacity of sacrifice, mindful of living in His presence, attaching real value to meeting Him and receiving His rewards, understanding the worth and place of this-worldly life, grateful and humble before Him, fearful of never having done enough, prepared and willing to obey His commands.

Every one of us has to die. Death is not the end of everything, it is only a transition into the next phase. In that phase we will stand face to face with Allah.
None of us likes to die; it is only human. But die we must, and only after death will the doors open to eternal life and blessings.

If we understand the nature and reality of this-worldly life, if we know that we can receive our fair wages only upon meeting Allah, then we will develop two feelings. One, a desire to meet Him, however we may fear Him on account of our own misdeeds. Two, the preparedness to sacrifice everything that belongs to this-world for what we will earn in reward in the Hereafter.

Whatever the nature of sacrifice, and whether big or small tangible or intangible, offer it in gratitude and humility. It so often happens that one begins to get weary and tired of giving in the way of Allah. One, then, begins to say, 'We have already spent so much time; we have already given so much money; how much more shall we give?; we have already made so many sacrifices; what else is required of us?'


This will happen only if we are making sacrifices not to please Allah alone; but then we are motivated by something else. Or, when we do not realize that we should indeed be grateful to Him for every opportunity we get to offer some sacrifice. Also offer every sacrifice in all humility.

Choice to sacrifice should be made willingly. This means that we should, by our own choice, come forward to offer whatever we can to secure Allah's pleasure. Our will should harmonize with His will.

This does not mean that one should not feel any pain or discomfort while making a sacrifice. Once we give up our luRve or our desire or our value, to feel pain is only human. Indeed, if we feel no pain in giving up something, that giving up may not be worth being called a sacrifice.

Hijrah

Orang kata hidup ni macam roda,sometimes kita akan berada di bawah and sometimes kita akan berada di atas...ujian n dugaan yg kita lalui tersimpan seribu satu hikmah yg kadang2 tidak dapat dilihat oleh mata kasar manusia, hanya Allah sahaja yang lebih mengetahui.....setiap hari kita akan diuji dengan pelbagai dugaan n cabaran, termasuklah hasutan dan godaan syaitan....dan apabila kita terjatuh becoz of tak terdaya melawan dan menghadapi dugaan itu, maka bermacam2 lah conflict "dalam diri" yang akan menguasai setiap orang yg bergelar "insan yang lemah" termasuklah jatuhnya "Self-esteem" which is the mental picture or self-image of who we are, how we look, what we're good at, and what our weaknesses might be.


We all experience problemzzz with self-esteem at certain times in our lives, especially during our teens when we're figuring out whooo we are and wheRre we fit in thiz world. The good news is that, becozz everyone's self-image changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed for life. So if you feeeeelllll that your self-esteem isn't all it could be, you can improve it. The same goes to me.....




Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others,,,,,,,,and how much we value, lurVve, and accept ourselves. Sometimess i always feeell as if no one will like me or accept me or that i can't do well in anything. Thiz is becoz i've a LOW self-esteem inside me.....I realize..people with
healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments.


Obviously, self-esteem can be damaged when someone whose acceptance is important (like a parent or teacher) constantly puts you down. But criticism doesn't have to come from other people. When i was a teeeen, i had an "inner critic," a voice inside me that seems to find fault with everything i did (like ade orang told me to do this and that and so on) And thus,sometimes i did unintentionally model my inner voice after my parents or someone else whose opinion is important to me.


Over time, listening to a -ve inner voice can harm a person's self-esteem just as much as if the criticism were coming from another person. Some people get so used to their inner critic being there that they don't even notice when they're putting themselves down.


How we feel about ourselves can influence how we live our lives. People who feel that they are likable and lovable (in other words people with good self-esteem) have better relationships. They're more likely to ask for help and support from friends and family when they need it. People who believe they can accomplish goals and solve problems are more likely to do well in academic. Having good self-esteem allows you to accept yourself and live life to the fullest.


when i was a prelaw-rian, i learned the subject of "Social Psychology"....here i would like to share some important part of Self-esteem on how to improve our self-esteem...here are some steps to start empowering ourselves:


Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself.
Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection.
View mistakes as learning opportunities.
Try new things.
Recognize what you can change and what you can't.
Set goals.
Take pride in your opinions and ideas.
Make a contribution.
Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.
Have fun.
Ever found yourself thinking stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were thinner"? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.


No matter what and no matter how it is, the most important thing in our liVes is jadikan Allah The One And The Only One,Dia satu-satunya tempat sandaran hati....


Yakinkan bahawa segala ketentuan dan ketetapannya sangat adil. Segala yang kita terima, yang kita alami adalah kerana Dia sangat mencintai kita dan menetapkan kejadian atau apa yang diberi atau menimpa kita adalah ketentuan dan ketetapannya yang sangat adil. Jika ini ditanamkan, Insya Allah apapun yang menimpa kita akan terasa biasa.