Thursday, December 24, 2009
Orang kata hidup ni macam roda,sometimes kita akan berada di bawah and sometimes kita akan berada di atas...ujian n dugaan yg kita lalui tersimpan seribu satu hikmah yg kadang2 tidak dapat dilihat oleh mata kasar manusia, hanya Allah sahaja yang lebih mengetahui.....setiap hari kita akan diuji dengan pelbagai dugaan n cabaran, termasuklah hasutan dan godaan syaitan....dan apabila kita terjatuh becoz of tak terdaya melawan dan menghadapi dugaan itu, maka bermacam2 lah conflict "dalam diri" yang akan menguasai setiap orang yg bergelar "insan yang lemah" termasuklah jatuhnya "Self-esteem" which is the mental picture or self-image of who we are, how we look, what we're good at, and what our weaknesses might be.
We all experience problemzzz with self-esteem at certain times in our lives, especially during our teens when we're figuring out whooo we are and wheRre we fit in thiz world. The good news is that, becozz everyone's self-image changes over time, self-esteem is not fixed for life. So if you feeeeelllll that your self-esteem isn't all it could be, you can improve it. The same goes to me.....
Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others,,,,,,,,and how much we value, lurVve, and accept ourselves. Sometimess i always feeell as if no one will like me or accept me or that i can't do well in anything. Thiz is becoz i've a LOW self-esteem inside me.....I realize..people with
healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments.
Obviously, self-esteem can be damaged when someone whose acceptance is important (like a parent or teacher) constantly puts you down. But criticism doesn't have to come from other people. When i was a teeeen, i had an "inner critic," a voice inside me that seems to find fault with everything i did (like ade orang told me to do this and that and so on) And thus,sometimes i did unintentionally model my inner voice after my parents or someone else whose opinion is important to me.
Over time, listening to a -ve inner voice can harm a person's self-esteem just as much as if the criticism were coming from another person. Some people get so used to their inner critic being there that they don't even notice when they're putting themselves down.
How we feel about ourselves can influence how we live our lives. People who feel that they are likable and lovable (in other words people with good self-esteem) have better relationships. They're more likely to ask for help and support from friends and family when they need it. People who believe they can accomplish goals and solve problems are more likely to do well in academic. Having good self-esteem allows you to accept yourself and live life to the fullest.
when i was a prelaw-rian, i learned the subject of "Social Psychology"....here i would like to share some important part of Self-esteem on how to improve our self-esteem...here are some steps to start empowering ourselves:
Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself.
Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection.
View mistakes as learning opportunities.
Try new things.
Recognize what you can change and what you can't.
Take pride in your opinions and ideas.
Make a contribution.
Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.
Ever found yourself thinking stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were thinner"? Enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. Relax and have a good time — and avoid putting your life on hold.
No matter what and no matter how it is, the most important thing in our liVes is jadikan Allah The One And The Only One,Dia satu-satunya tempat sandaran hati....
Yakinkan bahawa segala ketentuan dan ketetapannya sangat adil. Segala yang kita terima, yang kita alami adalah kerana Dia sangat mencintai kita dan menetapkan kejadian atau apa yang diberi atau menimpa kita adalah ketentuan dan ketetapannya yang sangat adil. Jika ini ditanamkan, Insya Allah apapun yang menimpa kita akan terasa biasa.